All About AVO’s


If you have landed on this page, you are probably

  • Thinking about taking out an AVO to make you feel safe

  • Have had an AVO taken out on your behalf by the Police

  • Have had an AVO taken out against you.

In any case, you are looking for more information to understand what this piece of paper means.

So, let me first say, you are in the right spot.



A qualitative Australian study examining women’s experiences of negotiating child contact arrangements with abusive ex-partners, found that 63 percent of women reported children witnessing abuse. The majority of women (82.6%) were subjected to ongoing violence by separated partners despite “protection” through apprehended violence restraining orders (Kaye et al., 2003)

– ANROWS, 2016



This website and the All About AVO’s podcast, shares are the insights and experiences of Domestic Abuse and Family Violence and the intersections of opportunity to avoid the complex and costly Courts System.



Our host Pip, shares her intimate knowledge of the process within the legal system and across the ecosystem that encompassed DV and Family Conflict. Whilst the episodes are focused on the impact of an Apprehended Violence Order it shares the stories to help you identify the real issues and concerns that create the power imbalances.



We hope you come to realise that you are not a victim but someone who was disempowered or misidentified in a moment of time, during extreme levels of controlling behaviour, conflict, anger, rage and abuse. We also hope you come to see that all behaviour can be changed, you can teach people how you want to be treated and that a perpetrators unhealthy coping strategies can be unlearnt.  Respectful communication is the standard of which are are prepared to walk by.




The image above depicts the natural dynamics of any relationship and depending on the closeness or the importance of it determines how quickly expectations are not met, standards are dropped, boundaries are crossed and thresholds tethered. Ultimately the deal breaker is a moment in time, an act or words that cannot be withdrawn or retracted.

This podcast has been created to help you understand the process and navigate the system to give you both strength and a sense of relief that allows you to make informed choices and provide alternative pathways to finding the peace and happiness you are looking for.

This podcast will help you Recognise the Signs, Respond to the Situation and Refer to services and support that can help you. But ultimately it is designed to provide you with the objectivity not always offered.

To the side are some of the most common types of abuse that are the red flags for violence. Click on the image to find out more details and discover the practical strategies to resolve high conflict.

In this series investigative journalist Pip Rae interviews victims, perpetrators, former police prosecutors, criminal and family lawyers, DV advocates, charities, DV foundations, family violence professionals, front line counselling services and child protection specialist.

  • This Podcast is a series that explains how the system works and fails to protect people who hold genuine fears. 
  • How the process helps, harms and hinders the breakdown of a relationship and 
  • How these pieces of paper are used and abused to control each party during escalating conflict.  

From this website and the podcast you learn who can help you navigate away from violence to personal safety, protect for children and how you or the system can hold those who choose abuse and violence responsible and accountable for their behaviour.

LISTEN NOW with more episodes available in the Blog.


Violence is a Choice


From our producer and host

Pip Rae

In these episodes you’ll see it’s just not all about AVO’s, you’ll hear the stories of those affected and stakeholders engaged in the system that has been designed to help, not harm, hinder or hurt relationships and families. Our guest share how we better we can collectively supports those experiencing Family and Domestic Violence and avoid costly legal battles, custody disputes and the evaporation of family assets due to conflict.

About the author

Pip Rae is Podcast Host and Producer. After spending nearly two decades investigating domestic violence and alcohol related crime as a Police Officer, she now writes and provides social justice commentary from her own and others’ experiences from the front line, in particular, Gender Inequality, Mens Mental Health, Domestic Violence, Women in Sport, Women and Money.

Pip is an advocate for change, a speaker and educator possessing an intimate knowledge of feminist issues, concerns and systems designed by the people who benefit from them. She has continued her research in the areas of Women’s Empowerment, Mental Health, Post Traumatic Growth and Reframing Social Justice.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • What is the root cause, contributing and influencing factors of domestic violence?
  • Does AVO’s stop someone from stalking and harassing you? What’s the best way to protect yourself?
  • How can you identify the difference between relationship conflict, abuse and domestic violence?
  • Do AVO’s work, is there more we can do or other options to deal with this national crisis?
  • What needs to happen as a society to see attitudes and behaviours around domestic violence change?
  • How do women become and stay empowered, sustain intimate relationships and independence?

Get in touch with Pip from Upstream Investigations to get clear on what’s going on for you and who’s benefiting.

If you would like to reach out to Pip and discuss the podcast, speaking opportunities or anything in regards to AVO’s please shoot through an email with your best contact number and we will get back to you promptly.